Forgiveness: Out of the darkness, into the glorious light

Forgiveness: Out of the darkness, into the glorious light

Forgiveness is the greatest gift. It is the difference between life and death. Forgiveness can restore the life in a relationship, whereas a lack of forgiveness can lead to the death of a relationship. As we reflect back on Holy…

Why “Forgive and Forget” is Bad Advice for Trauma Survivors

The phrase “forgive and forget” is a common slogan and recommendation. But does it make sense for trauma survivors? While researching for my book, You Don’t Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms, I discovered that many trauma survivors, including myself, have been encouraged to forgive their offenders and to forget their offenses. This advice can be well-intended, as its advocates might want us to feel better and to heal. Yet, “forg…