‘Don’t Go to Bed Angry’ Is a Myth—Here’s What to Do Instead

‘Don’t Go to Bed Angry’ Is a Myth—Here’s What to Do Instead

“Never go to bed angry.” This is a piece of advice you’ll hear again and again whenever an inquisitive journalist asks older, long-term married couples their one piece of advice for relationship longevity. Well, no offense to these relationship vets, but as a sex and relationship psychotherapist, I can tell you with complete certainty that this is actually kind of bullshit. Hear me out. On its face, the appeal of this simple adage is pretty evid…

Many people think that conflict is something dangerous. When arguments become frequent, they fear that the relationship is starting to fall apart. If you look at it consciously, conflict is an inevitable part of every relationship, and the ability to resolve it determines whether the relationship will grow or weaken. Whether a disagreement leads to a breakup or a deeper connection depends on how you deal with it as a couple.