New Living Arrangement Would Come with Serious Strings
Abigail Van Buren says his irregular commission-based income and his mother’s memory problems make the arrangement too complicated.
- After 10 months of dating, the boyfriend of INDECISIVE requested to move in following an eviction notice for three months of unpaid rent, reversing his firm refusal when she proposed the idea four months into their relationship.
- Financial instability plagues the boyfriend, whose commission-based job leaves him unpaid unless he sells something, and he has failed to complete requirements for a second position despite INDECISIVE urging him for months.
- Moving in would also involve the boyfriend's mother, who suffers from memory problems, creating a significant complication regarding who would care for her while he is working.
- Separately, UNCOMFORTABLE struggles with isolation in a 55-plus community where neighbors gossip about her jean shorts and T-shirt, prompting her to consider moving to a regular condo to be around younger people.
- Abby advises that the boyfriend must solve his own problems without involving the writer, warning that while INDECISIVE is generous, allowing the move would create an increasingly complicated relationship and a "ruckus" would be the least of her worries.
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Dear Abby: My boyfriend didn’t want us to live together until he got an eviction notice
DEAR ABBY: After four months of dating, I asked my boyfriend if we could move in together to save on rent. He was absolutely against the idea. We’ve now been dating for 10 months, and he recently got a letter stating that he’s about to be evicted because he hasn’t paid rent for three months. Now that he is about to lose his place, he says that because it’s been 10 months of us dating, he should move in.
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Dear Abby: New living arrangement would come with serious strings
He was absolutely against the idea. Now that he's lost his job, he wants to move in.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend didn’t want to move in together until an eviction notice came
DEAR ABBY: After four months of dating, I asked my boyfriend if we could move in together to save on rent. He was absolutely against the idea. We’ve now been dating for 10 months, and he recently got a letter stating that he’s about to be evicted because he hasn’t paid rent for three months. Now that he is about to lose his place, he says that because it’s been 10 months of us dating, he should move in.
Abby: New living arrangement would come with serious strings
DEAR ABBY: After four months of dating, I asked my boyfriend if we could move in together to save on rent. He was absolutely against the idea. We’ve now been dating for 10 months, and he recently got a letter…
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