US EditionDear Abby: 21-year-old is angry she wasn’t told about relatives on absent dad’s side of the family
- On my daughter's 21st birthday, the paternal grandmother called and presented a paternity test as a birthday gift to the 38-year-old mother’s daughter, Penny.
- After becoming pregnant at 16, the writer largely raised Penny alone, choosing not to involve Penny's father or the father's family because they were uninvolved, though she admitted their small town made secrecy unrealistic.
- The paternal grandparents still live locally, and Penny's father had several other children, while Grandma is in poor health and her previous caregiver moved across the country.
- Penny is angry that her mother was not honest about her history and that the grandmother only now acknowledges the relationship, while the writer is furious that paternal relatives placed Penny in this situation.
- Looking ahead, the mother worries about caregiving expectations as the writer says she worked hard to build a life for Penny and suspects Grandma wants Penny to assume caregiving responsibility.
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Dear Abby: I never told my daughter about her father’s family. Then they showed up
DEAR ABBY: I am a 38-year-old woman with a 21-year-old daughter, “Penny.” I got pregnant at 16 and was very much alone, with little help from those around me. For a variety of reasons, I decided not to involve the father or his family. They knew I was pregnant but chose to remain uninvolved and haven’t helped in any way. I worked hard to build a life for Penny and myself, and I have remained single all this time. Her father has since passed away…
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Dear Abby: I am a 38-year-old woman with a 21-year-old daughter, “Penny.” I got pregnant at 16 and was very much alone, with little help from those around me. For a variety of reasons, I decided not to involve the father or his family. They knew I was pregnant but chose to remain uninvolved and haven’t helped in any way. I worked hard to build a life for Penny and myself, and I have remained single all this time. Her father has since passed away…
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Dear Abby: Woman gives granddaughter paternity test results for her 21st birthday
DEAR ABBY: I am a 38-year-old woman with a 21-year-old daughter, “Penny.” I got pregnant at 16 and was very much alone, with little help from those around me. For a variety of reasons, I decided not to involve the father or his family. They knew I was pregnant but chose to remain uninvolved and haven’t helped in any way. I worked hard to build a life for Penny and myself, and I have remained single all this time. Her father has since passed away…
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