Atheist Off Ended by Others' Prayers
R. Eric Thomas says it is fair to ask friends not to pray, and suggests saying atheist beliefs respectfully while thanking them for support.
- An atheist reader asked advice columnist Eric Thomas whether it is acceptable to request that friends stop offering "thoughts and prayers" regarding their parent's recent illness.
- The reader feels that some acquaintances "push" their religious beliefs, creating discomfort rather than comfort during this difficult time.
- Eric Thomas advised that it is perfectly fair to set boundaries, noting that "thoughts and prayers" is often used as shorthand for condolences or well wishes.
- To address this, Thomas suggested a direct approach: "It's perfectly fine to say, I am an atheist and I don't believe in prayer, but I respect that you do."
- Because hints are often misinterpreted, Thomas emphasized that being explicit is the most effective way to communicate one's needs to others.
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Asking Eric: As an atheist, I’m offended by others’ offers of prayer
Dear Eric: I’m writing this to get your opinion about something that has been bothering me for a while but has been exacerbated by the recent illness of my mother.Although I was brought up Catholic, in my adult life I am a practicing atheist. I’m not one to ever bring that up unless in a safe environment to do so, or if I know I am among folks who lean the same way.
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Asking Eric: Atheist offended by others’ prayers
"I feel like they 'push' their prayers on me!"
Asking Eric: I’m an atheist, and wishing me ‘thoughts and prayers’ feels hollow — and even offensive
Dear Eric: I’m writing this to get your opinion about something that has been bothering me for a while but has been exacerbated by the recent illness of my mother.
Asking Eric: Keep me out of your thoughts and prayers
Dear Eric: As an atheist, I am offended when people say they will keep my mom in their thoughts “and prayers.” I sound unappreciative – I’m not at all and try to hint to my friends and family where I stand by replying or even stating upfront “please keep her in your thoughts” or “thanks for keeping her in your thoughts,” hoping people will get the hint. They usually don’t.
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