Asking Eric: Married Couple Are Soulmates but Have Stopped Having Sex
The husband says both partners lost desire and attraction, and the couple remains happily married despite five years without sex.
- After more than four decades of marriage, a 70-year-old husband and his 64-year-old wife have mutually agreed to forgo sex for the past five years.
- Both spouses cite weight struggles as contributing factors to their loss of physical desire and motivation for intimacy over time.
- Despite the shift, the husband describes his wife as his 'forever soulmate' and confirms they remain happily married, though he admits to occasional dreams of past partners.
- Relationship expert Eric clarified there is no standard 'normal' for relationships, noting that every couple changes in communication, shared interests, and physical connection throughout their time together.
- Eric recommends the couple consult a couples therapist or sex therapist to discuss their feelings in a neutral environment, even if they do not seek to restart their sex life.
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Asking Eric: Is it OK that we’ve stopped having sex after 40 years together?
Dear Eric: I’m a 70-year-old husband in relatively good health married to a wonderful 64-year-old wife, mother and grandmother to our grandchildren.We just celebrated more than four decades together. She is my forever soulmate and I’m confident I’ll always love her.
Asking Eric: Married couple are soulmates but have stopped having sex
Advice columnist R. Eric Thomas answers his readers' questions in this May 23, 2026 edition of Asking Eric.
Married couple soulmates, but no longer have sex
Dear Eric: I'm a 70-year-old husband in relatively good health married to a wonderful 64-year-old wife, mother and grandmother to our grandchildren. We just celebrated more than four decades together. She is my forever soulmate and I'm confident I'll always…
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